Real bullying is beyond contempt. Physically harming or psychologically harassing someone who just wants out ought to be stopped. It turns out, however, that anti-Bullying programs actually make bullying worse:
“University of Texas at Arlington criminologist Seokjin Jeong analyzed data collected from 7,000 students from all 50 states.
“He thought the results would be predictable and would show that anti-bullying programs curb bullying. Instead — he found the opposite.
“Jeong said it was, ‘A very disappointing and a very surprising thing. Our anti-bullying programs, either intervention or prevention does not work.’
“The study concluded that students at schools with anti-bullying programs might actually be more likely to become a victim of bullying. It also found that students at schools with no bullying programs were less likely to become victims.”
No, it does not come as a surprise. The study concludes that anti-bullying programs ‘actually teach students different bullying techniques — and even educate about new ways to bully through social media and texting.'”
It goes far beyond that, though. A perfect example can be seen by the following “anti-bullying” commercial:
The only “bullies” were the anti-bullying advocates. Wanting to have lunch amongst your friends, and those you have choose to, does not “bully” everyone else. Not interacting the way that “anti-bullying” advocates want is not bullying. On the contrary, we can see how “anti-bullying” programs can actually encourage people to “bully,” or perhaps more accurately fight back. If you are put upon and forced to be “friends” with people you don’t want to be friends with, you might very well build up resentment, or even outright hate. Perhaps that is the real reason why anti-bullying programs are such a pathetic failure.
The hypocrisy is astounding. He justifies being a bully by pointing out that he is just bullying bullies, which is OK because bullies deserve to be bullied, completely ignoring the fact that he is being the very same type of bully he accuses others off. Yet again, the rabid Left are simply projections. The only justification is that some views and people are worthy of elevation and protection, while others are worthy only of contempt. An excellent take-down of Dan Savage can be found here.
Much of the “anti-bullying” focus has been on LGBTQ kids. As has just been noted, the “anti-bullying” tactics will tend to encourage people to be resentful against those who have been raised to the position of special protection, and be given a privilege thereby. This is particularly true when those who don’t have that privilege are told that they are legitimate targets for criticism because “social justice” advocates say they are “privileged” just for being normal.
The widdershins nature of bullying has resulted in girls being force to use the restroom with boys who declare they are girls. Obviously the girls feel uncomfortable with a boy present while they do their business, and even feel harassed by the boy. However, it is those girls who are declared the harassers because to admit the truth would be to challenge the narrative of LGBTQ = oppressed and Straight = oppressor.
In a truly sad case, a boy, who was publicly asked at school by a transvestite/transgender student to be that boys valentine, ended up shooting the transvestite/transgender student dead. This is unquestionably horrendous. It does raise the question, though, of whether the schools “anti-bullying” policy contributed to this lethal outcome? The transvestite/transgender student reportedly refused to take “NO” for an answer and bugged the straight boy and even followed him into the boys bathroom with impunity. The school apparently did nothing to stop this harassment; it becomes now normal to blame the kid who is on the receiving end of harassment to be blamed for the harassment and to be further harassed by school officials for being “intolerance.” With schools aiding and abetting harassment like this, is it any wonder that a boy who is harassed enough might snap? If it were a straight boy who did all that to a lesbian girl, would the school officials have behaved in the same way?
Another problem is that “bullying” has been so watered down as a definition, that all verbal disagreements or fighting is labeled as “bullying.” Heck, even expressing politically incorrect thoughts is considered by some to be bullying. Sometimes, we should let kids work out things for themselves. Getting into a shouting match is not bullying. A couple of boys getting in a scuffle is not bullying. Someone stating what they honestly believe is not bullying. Saying these things are bullying is like crying wolf, and can be disastrous when real cases of bullying occur.
Perhaps this is just an “andro-normative” statement, but if a boy bullies another boy, then the bullied boy should fight back, even if it means throwing a punch at a bigger opponent. A boy, or a man, will respect someone who demonstrates they have a spine, and will look down upon those who don’t. This problem is exacerbated when an authority figure steps in and protects the boy who doesn’t fight back, while hypocritically acting like a bully the “bully.”
Real bullying is contemptible. But it won’t be solves by “anti-bullying” activists who are themselves nothing but bullies.